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I admit, I am not an avid commenter. There are times when I am commenting on everything, and there are times when I don't comment at all. I think on a journal, removing someone for not commenting on your entries is not a big deal, actually, and I can understand why people do that. I don't do that. Even if you never comment, even if you hardly ever post, I most likely won't delete you, mostly because I find people fascinating (as a person who isn't the biggest fan of others, that could be considered hypocritical I suppose), but I like the fact that with an online journal, we allow people a small look into our lives and let them see that we are actually quite similar to many different people.

The one thing I find distasteful is removing friends from Facebook, especially if they are people you know/knew and were/are close to. I had a friend who randomly deleted me from myspace. I no longer have myspace, nor did I really check it, so I didn't care that much. Then he deleted me from Facebook. We were really close and while I admit we hadn't talked for a while, you'd think he'd like to use me for networking, since I had told him that if I ever found out about any graphic design jobs that I couldn't do, I'd send them to him. So it was a bit of a shock when he did that. I sent him a short, very nice message about it, and he told me he randomly cleans up his facebook every once in a while and I shouldn't take it personally. Well, I suppose I shouldn't. That is his choice if he doesn't want to list me as a friend on facebook. It's also my choice not to give him any references when graphic design jobs come my way (which they do from time to time).

I think it's completely different when you are friends with someone from high school you haven't talked to since high school, or maybe even earlier, and they remove you from their list. But when my friend from graphic design removed me, stating it was nothing personal and that he just liked to clean up his list from time to time, that just annoyed me. Then again, I do hope he doesn't remove his girlfriend from his list. I would hate to see the wrath of the girlfriend scorned by facebook. It would be quite entertaining, but still scary.

So in conclusion, if you like lots of comments from your online journal friends, I am probably not the best person for that. I do try, but I admit, there are times when I have nothing to say. Doesn't mean I'm not reading.

There's my little rant/just some information for you to know. :) I do love to read about what goes on in other people's lives. Makes my life seem so...well, I don't know. Just makes it seem like my life is pretty normal, since I see people struggling with stuff that either I have struggled with, or am struggling with. Or may struggle with in the future. :]

Date: 2011-10-07 04:18 pm (UTC)
burning_bright: (autumn)
From: [personal profile] burning_bright
I like receiving comments, but I don't remove people if they don't comment. I don't comment much either! I would remove someone if I found them boring, but as long as there is something about the person that I find interesting, I like keeping them. Like you say, it's interesting to read about people's lives in an unobtrusive way- after all, we all write as much as we want others to know, so it's not like you're peeping through their key hole. :-)

Date: 2011-10-07 10:28 pm (UTC)
deathgaze: (Default)
From: [personal profile] deathgaze
I try to comment as much as I can, but I understand when people don't do the same. A good chunk of my friends list is on hiatus or just too busy with life to even post, but I'm not removing them.

I agree with your last paragraph :) It's always nice to know you're not alone.

Please don't hate me for anything I say!

Date: 2011-10-07 10:47 pm (UTC)
claire_chan: oboe (oboe)
From: [personal profile] claire_chan
Every once in a while [i.e. when I have time], I try to clean up FB, LJ, and DW, by asking myself these four questions:
1. "Why do I associate with person ψ?"
2. "Do I actually like ψ?"
3. "Is it useful to remain in contact with ψ?"
4. "How does my relationship to ψ seem to others; must I remain in contact with ψ to remain in, say, ΑΜΓ?"

(Psi is my favourite Greek letter. ♥ Alpha Mu Gamma does not haze - it is an academic fraternity.)

As a (daresay I?) popular person, I just can't stay in contact with absolutely everyone I meet. The world is too large. @_@

I understand people are busy too, so not commenting is NOT a criterion in my friendship algorithm.

I don't know about you, but I'm interested in examining the relationship between you and me!
1. I associate with [personal profile] casimiera for the value of associating with another intelligent DW friend!
2. I do actually like you ^_^ but not in a creepy way!
3. It is useful for me to remain in contact with you, for the sake of having someone from DW to read about!
4. I don't think anyone outside DW even knows you and I write.

I hope it's okay I can't be nice to everyone ;_;


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