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[casimiera]

here's the thing about deciding to become sober. people don't get it. "how do you have fun?" "what kind of life is that without alcohol?" why do i need to rely on alcohol to be happy is my question. what makes my life so much better by getting drunk and feeling horrible the next day? or why do i need to have a glass of wine to unwind? i find there are much better ways of unwinding than drinking. why are there people who think it's cool they can drink so much and not have a hangover the next morning? i've been sober for 5 months. i decided that was a goal for the year. covid has helped a lot with that, but in general, i don't keep alcohol in my home. i have wine, but i only will open that when there's more than one person around. one of my coworkers has been sober for 7 years. i think anyone who is willing to not give in to peer pressure and to stay the course is pretty awesome.

when i was up at the farm last year, i didn't want to drink. my friend sarah gave me so much shit about it. she said that she didn't believe in sobriety. unless of course you're an alcoholic. now, of course, my sobriety is suddenly okay to her. i find people like that really obnoxious. just because i don't want to drink doesn't mean you can't drink. get as drunk as you want! i don't care. maybe my decisions don't seem like i'm really living, but do you know how much money i save because i don't drink? that money most likely paid for my bathroom remodel. so there's that.

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[robopenguin]

I have been working on being sober as well. You're so right. Stay on your goals, don't mind social pressure.

You got this!!!

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[casimiera]

awesome! and thanks! i've found it so much easier to stay sober with the pandemic. also because i see no one and go nowhere except work hah.

[pill]

hey, so i came across your journal and added you because i think we will get along very well.

i am in long term recovery from my DOC, and it's been quite a ride. i also don't drink -- although i used to be a hardcore binge drinker in my younger and mid 20's, but maybe we all do that? when you talked about people not understanding you when you say you aren't drinking/don't drink, it really resonated with me. the culture around alcohol is so normalized and i will never understand why. it's by far one of the most dangerous drugs, imo.

i will have the occasional glass of wine or whatever on a special occasion/holiday, but not always.

i don't know why our personal relationship with alcohol has to be anyone else's business or why people get so worked up about it. it's like, chill out and sit down and drink your beer and shut up - and leave me and my opinions and boundaries alone. ya know?

good on you for sticking to your goals and not allowing others to pressure you or bring you down. that says a lot about your strength and drive to stick to your commitments, and not many people can say that!

i hope we can become mutuals on here - i really think we'd get along well. you're welcome to snoop around my blog and decide for yourself, and if you'd like me to delete you, i would be more than happy to. no hard feelings either way!