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[personal profile] casimiera
I admit, I am not an avid commenter. There are times when I am commenting on everything, and there are times when I don't comment at all. I think on a journal, removing someone for not commenting on your entries is not a big deal, actually, and I can understand why people do that. I don't do that. Even if you never comment, even if you hardly ever post, I most likely won't delete you, mostly because I find people fascinating (as a person who isn't the biggest fan of others, that could be considered hypocritical I suppose), but I like the fact that with an online journal, we allow people a small look into our lives and let them see that we are actually quite similar to many different people.

The one thing I find distasteful is removing friends from Facebook, especially if they are people you know/knew and were/are close to. I had a friend who randomly deleted me from myspace. I no longer have myspace, nor did I really check it, so I didn't care that much. Then he deleted me from Facebook. We were really close and while I admit we hadn't talked for a while, you'd think he'd like to use me for networking, since I had told him that if I ever found out about any graphic design jobs that I couldn't do, I'd send them to him. So it was a bit of a shock when he did that. I sent him a short, very nice message about it, and he told me he randomly cleans up his facebook every once in a while and I shouldn't take it personally. Well, I suppose I shouldn't. That is his choice if he doesn't want to list me as a friend on facebook. It's also my choice not to give him any references when graphic design jobs come my way (which they do from time to time).

I think it's completely different when you are friends with someone from high school you haven't talked to since high school, or maybe even earlier, and they remove you from their list. But when my friend from graphic design removed me, stating it was nothing personal and that he just liked to clean up his list from time to time, that just annoyed me. Then again, I do hope he doesn't remove his girlfriend from his list. I would hate to see the wrath of the girlfriend scorned by facebook. It would be quite entertaining, but still scary.

So in conclusion, if you like lots of comments from your online journal friends, I am probably not the best person for that. I do try, but I admit, there are times when I have nothing to say. Doesn't mean I'm not reading.

There's my little rant/just some information for you to know. :) I do love to read about what goes on in other people's lives. Makes my life seem so...well, I don't know. Just makes it seem like my life is pretty normal, since I see people struggling with stuff that either I have struggled with, or am struggling with. Or may struggle with in the future. :]

Date: 2011-10-07 04:18 pm (UTC)
burning_bright: (autumn)
From: [personal profile] burning_bright
I like receiving comments, but I don't remove people if they don't comment. I don't comment much either! I would remove someone if I found them boring, but as long as there is something about the person that I find interesting, I like keeping them. Like you say, it's interesting to read about people's lives in an unobtrusive way- after all, we all write as much as we want others to know, so it's not like you're peeping through their key hole. :-)

Date: 2011-10-07 10:28 pm (UTC)
deathgaze: (Default)
From: [personal profile] deathgaze
I try to comment as much as I can, but I understand when people don't do the same. A good chunk of my friends list is on hiatus or just too busy with life to even post, but I'm not removing them.

I agree with your last paragraph :) It's always nice to know you're not alone.

Please don't hate me for anything I say!

Date: 2011-10-07 10:47 pm (UTC)
claire_chan: oboe (oboe)
From: [personal profile] claire_chan
Every once in a while [i.e. when I have time], I try to clean up FB, LJ, and DW, by asking myself these four questions:
1. "Why do I associate with person ψ?"
2. "Do I actually like ψ?"
3. "Is it useful to remain in contact with ψ?"
4. "How does my relationship to ψ seem to others; must I remain in contact with ψ to remain in, say, ΑΜΓ?"

(Psi is my favourite Greek letter. ♥ Alpha Mu Gamma does not haze - it is an academic fraternity.)

As a (daresay I?) popular person, I just can't stay in contact with absolutely everyone I meet. The world is too large. @_@

I understand people are busy too, so not commenting is NOT a criterion in my friendship algorithm.

I don't know about you, but I'm interested in examining the relationship between you and me!
1. I associate with [personal profile] casimiera for the value of associating with another intelligent DW friend!
2. I do actually like you ^_^ but not in a creepy way!
3. It is useful for me to remain in contact with you, for the sake of having someone from DW to read about!
4. I don't think anyone outside DW even knows you and I write.

I hope it's okay I can't be nice to everyone ;_;

Date: 2011-10-08 02:07 pm (UTC)
claire_chan: Pleased Tomoyo (Tomoyo ^_^)
From: [personal profile] claire_chan
Oh, I'm glad!! ♥ Honesty, at least in my case, tends to pay off! With a healthy dose of thoughtfulness.

I expect most people to differ from my viewpoint, therefore I'm on my own to explain and support my opinion.
DW seems to be a "safe haven" from the wilderness of the Internet writ large.
I'm eternally grateful to my friend [personal profile] aim_of_destiny for inviting me here. Aim's one of those people who doesn't reveal her name - which is okay, especially since she did tell me.

It's a matter of whether I actually have the time to deal with others - maintaining a 4.0 is practically impossible in the face of keeping everything else in life up to par.
(Right now, it's the beginning of Fall Break for me, so I can explain this better than if I were faced with a Theory melody accompanied the knowledge I have to accompany it with ii, V and vii chords on a piano in front of class next time BESIDES a sheet of Russian parts of speech, both due in class tomorrow morning! Although, honestly, Russian's in the mid-afternoon... Theory is "fun" in the way only Theory can be. u_u)

Do you have time to ask yourself those questions? Most of the time, I don't. Now is special - fall break.

I hope your RL is geting better! ;_; Mine did this semester - I got a paid executive governmental position, and I got permission to mostly study Latin and Greek, my personal expertises! (Along with computer science and pure maths! Not the monotony of constant Calculus, but the particularly interesting stuff like set theory and the beginnings of topology!! ♥ Of course, [ profile] volandum knows that kind of stuff much better than I do, as he majors in it.)

Thank you ♥ My entries... um... come from my head xD I keep telling myself I should make a biography sheet of all my characters so I can keep them all straight, but I only have one piece of fiction right now which isn't too complex, and it's intended as motivation to keep my journal regularly updated. For some reason, people REALLY like it! Maybe because it's a break from checking how people are doing? Maybe because I write it when I technically don't have time?

The people who have 2000 FB friends make me very suspicious.
Do they legitimately need to keep in touch with so many others? Like throughout grade school, I tend to maintain maybe three genuine friends. I can't keep track of anyone else - I just lost my cup of tea! I know it's in the kitchen somewhere but I was thinking about what I wanted to say to you... it's okay, maybe I'll find it by the end of my comment!
I like some of the people with whom I went to class - but not very many. So my FB list is mostly hand-picked as of the last time I reviewed it.

*nod* I find it easier to be forthright and reveal: okay, I'm this University student from near Philadelphia often stuck in Schuylkill traffic. (That's pronounced skookle) I visit northeast Philly every year or so with the Russian Club for the cultural immersion experience.
(And also because my parents love Russian bacon. It's like European-style bacon in that the butcher slices the amount you want upon order! The pieces are much bigger than American-style bacon.)

I've SEEN some people not give FB their actual names - like my friends "Atheists Uniteddotorg" or "Cañas Gonzales Oboe". I consider my name unique and just don't do stuff I'm ashamed of revealing to employers, so I'm all right with revealing it - I'm Claire Binkley. You can google me - apparently I'm the only one in the US according to whitepages dot com, and the other ones died or were from Scotland or something. I am an oboist with a bit of bassoonery, and an Atheist. University student.
Don't worry about my manner of revealing so much about myself - I don't expect you to do the same. In fact, if it freaks you out, just don't bother. DW is a safe place.

Also, without some sort of Internet pseudonym, I can't forget it - my memory is extremely limited.

You can only be nice to a certain KIND of person...

I'm somewhat envious of your mad memory skillz. If I can attach a specific memory to a person, then I can remember that one. Like Carolyn B. played the flute solos when I played Scheherazade so many years ago. I can't forget her, or my rooming with her, or how floozy I found her.
I embarrassed myself a week or two ago by confusing the OCCA president's name with the treasurer's, but then apologised to both. It was okay.

Off to put my empty cup in the sink!

Date: 2011-10-11 08:01 pm (UTC)
claire_chan: Socrates (Socrates)
From: [personal profile] claire_chan
Good good ♥

Smiling makes everyone feel better - except when it's artificial, and sometimes the artificial smiles encourage cheer where it may not have existed previously.
I have time because I'm on holiday - but that is coming to an end. I plan to respond in as much depth when I don't have as much time because it's DW and I particularly want to, just please understand it'd be at odd hours or a couple days later.

We do have a nice conversation here! Why not? :D Keep in mind these messages are likely going to get relegated to hazily "the weekends" maybe.
Unbelievably hard, if p o s s i b l e.
Thank you!! It does mean I don't have as much time as optimal to "goof off", but it's very helpful when trying to make an impression.

Not Japanese this semester, but Greek. xDD I studied a little bit of Japanese at the end of high school. ちょっとだけ。

When I have time and am not writing up something amazing like what Gaius Stuartus got himself into this time...! Maybe I'll draw a profile picture for each of 'em and write a little blurb. Whenever this mysterious "time" pops up.

The physics guy who evidently "likes me" enough for kissing and buying me dinner and a mathematics calendar does not have an FB account, telling me none of his family did. He told me, furthermore, that it always makes people go "WTF?" which I'm sad to report is not verbatim but close enough.

Yeah, it's only Facebook really where I have random people I don't actually know, but I added the other two places just in case I get into an argument with an LJ'er or something. It happens.

My sympathies for having hit rock bottom ;_; even once is bad enough - it does depend on what you consider "rock bottom" though. One of the roughest times of my life was a couple months after a car accident. I write "a couple months" because immediately after the occasion, I had been in a coma. At least the people around me put me into one of the best hospitals in the mid-Atlantic region. It's frustrating thinking I have to fight through accident haze to get all my numbers right again. I manage when I don't think about it, interestingly enough.

Wow, even one of my more popular friends has 900some. I don't think she's necessarily "popular" though - I think most of her friends are pets.

Age and beauty don't go hand in hand :O the most beautiful equations were imagined in the 1800s, and of course just the best music from the 1700s remains.

Maybe uncle John's wife? xDD *fail* Besides my mother that's the only married Binkley lady I can immediately think of. I was disturbed when I found out there are two other Claires in my classes this semester! (One in Computer Science and the other in Greek) Throughout grade school, I was the only one except for a Chinese girl and my grandmother's neighbour.

I'm often on the Dean's List except when I do less than optimally in Music Theory or what have you.

Okay! I think I'm Polish and German and Hungarian and... something else. My surname is often misspelled, if not mispronounced.

Karen the K is awesome xD I know my oboe professor's wife is named Karen! She retained her given name because they both profess at the same college a door apart.

That's interesting! :D My username - my given name with a Japanese cute ending.

If you water the inspiration area too much, it might drown!! Be careful xD

I'm trying to not be as kind myself because people take advantage of that, but it's hard to abstain from civility!

I say I have a bad memory. It depends on what I'm trying to remember IRL, though.

Don't worry about the tangential talk, otherwise our correspondence wouldn't be as interesting! You are awesome too. xD

Time to eat! I've discovered eating a lot = life quality better. Let's preview and submit!!

Date: 2011-10-15 11:55 pm (UTC)
claire_chan: tea (tea)
From: [personal profile] claire_chan
Just make yourself smile when not feeling up to it, and that’s artificial smiling.

I tend to get caught up in stuff and forget core essentials. School is good!

Very true. However, we’re making the time happen whether it naturally exists or not.

I’ve found Japanese easy, easier than Russian, but languages all tend to come easily to me somehow.
Immersion programs are the most effective, but do we ever have time to completely immerse ourselves in… Japanese this time?
Philly is nice as far as immersion goes, but I think most cities are hot spots for radically DIFFERENT cultures.

@_@ Just a matter of getting the time to find my sketchbook…

I don't know, I've been on the internet for so long that the fact that people are actually now ALWAYS on the internet still kind of shocks me.
Me too, and now I occasionally have to alert people that (gasp) sometimes I’m not accessible on the Interwebs.

I’ll have to share that some of my friends find it cool he doesn’t have a Facebook account. xD Next time we're both on teh bus! One of my friends demanded if I had another date planned and I told her "I just came out of one!! NO Dx" *not intrinsically social*

Minor gamer here. I can’t say I’m a major gamer because I also have so many other things I need to do @_@

It doesn’t matter too much to me who reads what I might have to say, honestly. ^^;;

I read about people who’ve been to psychiatric wards and I don’t want to if I can help it, because it sounds bad.
Glad your current psychiatrist is full of awesome, though ♥
My parents wouldn’t put me into a boarding school because they’re big public school people – both are teachers. The potential boyfriend and his family are from a big Catholic school in the area. He tells me it was harder than our current uni stuff @_@
My sister also loved her art/photo teachers too! Enough she applied to an art school.
That reminds me, I should make another sweep of random FB friends who are there for no reason…

Sympathy for the depression D:

Okay, I don’t know a Jason.

Yes, her friends are pets and stuffed animals. I don’t understand either. Maybe it makes her feel better about how few people actually like her?

It depends on the person.

Some classes are just impossible, don’t worry about it!

I don’t trust my parents very much: they say they’re Irish, German, Swiss, and native American. Definitely Catholic.

There are two other Claires in my current classes – one in Comp Sci and the other in Greek, and one was with me when graduating high school.

Japanese stuff is pretty nice ^^ not as crazy about it as I once was.

I can’t think of anything creative when told to be creative. D: Are you like that, too?

I’m trying to get rid of random FB friends I don’t know, but it is hard. I did cut down from over 400 to less than 200 quickly!

I hate when my memory draws blanks, like for Greek quizzes. u_u;;;;

Hurrah, tangents :D

Food and I are on shaky terms. @_@ But at last I have finally responded sufficiently enough xD;;; I hope!!

Date: 2011-10-25 04:04 am (UTC)
claire_chan: A profile sketch. (Default)
From: [personal profile] claire_chan
Life's been so busy for me too!!!

Don't worry, this is low priority.


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